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![Recently, I called some high-school friends to ask why we rarely talked about the cultures we embodied at home.](https://ca-times.brightspotcdn.com/dims4/default/ce82598/2147483647/strip/true/crop/3244x1512+0+0/resize/2000x932!/quality/75/?url=https%3A%2F%2Fcalifornia-times-brightspot.s3.amazonaws.com%2F71%2F3f%2F97c34e59457c876822106084c2cd%2Fgharib-malaka-lat-race-01b.jpg)
![I didn't talk much about race in high school.](https://ca-times.brightspotcdn.com/dims4/default/9a7f59a/2147483647/strip/true/crop/3831x1940+0+0/resize/2000x1013!/quality/75/?url=https%3A%2F%2Fcalifornia-times-brightspot.s3.amazonaws.com%2F0f%2F41%2F6dfd8c5047c6acc608e04a87d225%2Fgharib-malaka-lat-race-02.jpg)
![My friends asked each other what we "were" but it never seemed to go deeper than that.](https://ca-times.brightspotcdn.com/dims4/default/3120a0c/2147483647/strip/true/crop/3745x9354+0+0/resize/2000x4995!/quality/75/?url=https%3A%2F%2Fcalifornia-times-brightspot.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fc8%2F89%2F501184984b77b113392e99a70913%2Fgharib-malaka-lat-race-03.jpg)
![But our school had its own set of problems. Even though we didn't talk about racial issues, they were all around us.](https://ca-times.brightspotcdn.com/dims4/default/9e1ede1/2147483647/strip/true/crop/3745x8224+0+0/resize/2000x4392!/quality/75/?url=https%3A%2F%2Fcalifornia-times-brightspot.s3.amazonaws.com%2F40%2Fa7%2F164aff6d402eb7cce7dadc3d556b%2Fgharib-malaka-lat-race-04.jpg)
![I had no idea my friends grappled with the same comforts and insecurities that I had.](https://ca-times.brightspotcdn.com/dims4/default/a0a3e4a/2147483647/strip/true/crop/3745x8422+0+0/resize/2000x4498!/quality/75/?url=https%3A%2F%2Fcalifornia-times-brightspot.s3.amazonaws.com%2F48%2Fe9%2F9587a95e4e7e914b4993cd406817%2Fgharib-malaka-lat-race-05.jpg)
![I think about how different school might've been if we had this knowledge as teens.](https://ca-times.brightspotcdn.com/dims4/default/5585709/2147483647/strip/true/crop/3745x1669+0+0/resize/2000x891!/quality/75/?url=https%3A%2F%2Fcalifornia-times-brightspot.s3.amazonaws.com%2F1b%2Fb7%2F9e42aa0b476886c3aaccd3a5a133%2Fgharib-malaka-lat-race-06.jpg)
Malaka Gharib is a journalist on NPR’s science desk and the author of “I Was Their American Dream: A Graphic Memoir” and the forthcoming memoir “It Won’t Always Be Like This.”
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